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Three little words. I’ve always been very free with these three little words. I said I love you to every guy I ever dated and I say I love you to my husband a few times a day—and I want to hear I love you a few times every day. I say I love you to my kids every day, at the conclusion of every phone call, and before I go to bed. It is the last phrase on my lips as I fall asleep.
I’m very big on I love you. I always have been and I’m only getting more so as I get older, now that I’ve lost people that I’ve loved. I wish I’d told them I loved them more often, not less.
Now, there are some people (and I’ve dated a few) who don’t use the phrase much. For some people, the phrase I love you is so special and so important that it must be doled out with precision and deliberation, otherwise it becomes rumpled and meaningless. I’m guessing about that. I have no experience with this perspective so I’m projecting.
I don’t understand this position. To say I love you is the most wonderful thing to say and the most wonderful thing to hear. Saying it often doesn’t make it less valuable or important or real. Does it?
Are you an I love you kind of girl or do you hold your I love you in reserve, for that special moment?
I hope it doesn’t make it less valuable or important because I say it about 100 times a day to my husband and my sons, and I am glad to say they often say it to me as well.
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 1:29 am.
Well, *I* don’t think it makes it any less valuable by repeated ‘exposure’ but I know some do. I can’t figure them out. I’m hoping they can explain it to me!
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 10:36 am.
I love saying and hearing I Love You. There are some people who will never in this lifetime or the next three hear me say that to them (they know who they are); but for most I will say it and mean it to varying degrees.I LOVE my children, g-kids, and sister and my mom.I love some of my friends(insert goddesses here),I love some of the books I read and music I listen to, I am passing fond of some people (new little guy in our daycare who runs for hello and goodbye hugs everyday). It’s a great word, thought, and action; keep up the good work. I love you.
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 1:56 am.
And Goddesses Love You! <3
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 4:58 am.
Love saying and hearing it as well. We can form a club!
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 10:37 am.
If I love someone, trust me, they know about it.
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 3:30 am.
Too funny, Mary. And good for you!
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 10:41 am.
Actually, I say I love you to my mom, siblings ALL the time. Like, every 10 minutes. I just love saying I love you to my family! My mom doesn’t like it, she’s one of these people who says it loses meaning! I’m not. I also say I love you to my friends ALL the time, because I love them! Man, I’ll even say I love you to my therapist (in my defense, she totally said it first, LOL!)
But, when it comes to guy, the only guy I’ve ever said it to was the ex, but even then, it was only a few times. I do love him, but I just don’t say it. He wants me to say it, especially when we’re… you know. But I don’t know, it feels awkward. I only say it when he says something really funny or sweet and I’m like, “Dude, I just love you.” or something.
Anyway, I’m like that.
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 4:47 am.
Maybe you’ll say it more as time goes by. I say it more now than I used to.
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 10:42 am.
I don’t often say it because I believe that it should mean something so I hold it in when I am dating a guy until he says it first. It gets hard to hold it in at times but I freely say it to my family because I do love them dearly.
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 4:47 am.
Oh, I definitely expect the guy to say it first. And then I expect him to say it often.
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 10:43 am.
I am definitely an I love you girl. I have always been affectionate and find that it is a gift of yourself. I still blow kisses on the phone to my loved ones (children, grandparents, great aunts) I just can’t help it. If that was the last words spoken, all the better for you and the person to know that they are valued and loved. Withholding that gift is like drinking stagnant water- love is supposed to flow like a stream that is continuous ever flowing and touching the earth all around it, to hold that is to only drink from the same pail..it will make you sick and poison. Remember the greatest gift is love and it was meant to be shared through actions and words
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 5:42 am.
Oh, yes! Stagnant water, what a great image. I feel the same way.
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 10:48 am.
I am a giver of love to my family… and boyfriend… and best friend. Other than that I guess I don’t share the love as well. I just find it hard to become close to people. Or close enough to tell them those three special words. Now, in general conversations its different. It seems I love everyone and everything then. ‘That Claudia Dain, oh yea, I love her!’ Or, ‘I love romance authors x,y, and z!’ Here’s one, PaTrick Dempsey-I love you. See, I have no problem with that…hhmmm.
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 7:00 am.
Hey, as long as I’m a recipient of the love, how can I complain?
No, really, based on my experience, I’ve gotten much more effusive with the I love yous as each year passes. You lose a few people and you get very lovey-dovey with those that remain.
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 10:51 am.
Hhmmm…we have kind of worked in the opposite direction in that aspect.
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 1:59 pm.
I never said it to the guys I dated–until the dh.
Like you, I say it every day, multiple times a day to him now and to the boys. Even to the Teenager in front of his girlfriends. And he says it right back, which I take as a sign of character.
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 7:33 am.
I love you Deb! (in a purely platonic way of course)
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 9:19 am.
I love you right back, Kelly–in the same way!
Posted on February 11, 2012 at 7:34 am.
Oh, yes, it’s fantastic when a teen-aged boy can say he loves you to his mom IN PUBLIC. Major, major applause for pulling that off, Mom.
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 10:52 am.
I tend to say it fairly often to my parents, siblings and closest friends. On a good day, with a chuckle to appreciated co-workers. Maybe I need to reign it in?
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 7:59 am.
No, no, let it RUN FREE!!!
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 10:53 am.
I´m the “use it sparingly” kind of girl. I don´t think “I love you” has ever been said in my family out loud. We are more the hugging and supporting and showing our love rather than speeking of it (me and my siblings that is). To me I feel if you like saying it, saying it to your family, to close relatives, is more than fine if you are into that but when people are spraying it over all and sundry, to me it just sound so phony :Öþ But that´s me. Now granted I will use the phrase “I love her (often referring to Goddesses) books” repeatedly to my partner but I would never say it to you guys without getting to know your first because if we ever met you might hate my guts ;Ö) So I´d make sure first. XÖD
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 8:36 am.
Solveig, you are a good egg and I can’t imagine anyone hating your guts.
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 9:17 am.
Thank you very much Kelly :Ö) I have this annoying habit of being an overactive people pleaser because(!) I´m always afraid people will hate my guts ;Ö) It´s a vicious circle I know :Öþ
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 9:26 am.
Ah! Finally, someone whose brain I can pick apart on the ‘don’t say it’ side.
So it sounds phoney to you? Hmm. Does it matter how it’s said or is it just who is saying it?
I’ll admit that if my bug guy (the guy who comes to kill the bugs, not an actual guy who is a bug) said he loved me, I would be creeped out. It’s not a one size fits all kind of phrase.
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 10:55 am.
I think that because my parents or aunts or grandparents never use/d that phrase, and I mean NEVER, to me or my siblings it is somehow such an important thing to say you just don´t throw it around to anybody you meet. And yes I would definitly be creeped out if the bug guy said it to me XÖD. I have to admit I would love to be able to say it more often but it just seems it is clogged somewhere between my heart and my brain, I´m almost scared of it :Ö/. If someone says to me he loves me, a person who does not know me very well I feel it´s phony but if a close relative would say it like my sisters I´d go all mushy and crumpled (becoming so just by thinking about it).
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 11:03 am.
I wonder if it’s a national thing? It used to be more unusual in the U.S. for I love yous to be tossed around but now it’s much more common. Do you think you’re not only reflecting how you were raised but also following national guidelines? Or is it just the way you’re wired.
I can’t tell you how much more free I’ve become with I love you in the last 10 years, but MUCH much more. I feel like I need to throw it around, necessary to life, like water.
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 1:24 pm.
I think it is probably still rather common in my society, we are thought rather quiet and closed people (before the first bear that is ;Ö). An American teacher from New York who works alot here in summer always tells his students before he brings them here that just because the Icelanders don´t say much it is not because we don´t like them, its just that we don´t seem to feel the need to fill every silence with words XÖD I still do thing though that I´m particularly bad because of my upbringing :Öþ I´m trying to break free but it´s not easy.
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 2:51 pm.
Ahemm that is supposed to be “beer” not “bear” LOL
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 2:52 pm.
I tell my husband and kids every day that I love them, but anyone else it completely depends on who it is as to whether or not I’ll tell them.
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 9:00 am.
That makes sense!
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 11:03 am.
there are too many degrees of love to use the same 3 words to express it about so many things. sure i love those shoes and i am in love with the hero in my book. i love my dog and ice cream. so it seems those 3 words are just … words. although we say “i love you” in our family we also hug, we kiss, we give that warm caring look. somehow the love we feel gets across and has a much stronger meaning. because it seems to be so much more with family i find it uncomfortable to say it when i should but dont mean it( the aunt you secretly hate or the sibling you just never got along with-just examples)
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 9:05 am.
I like to think that people can tell the difference between “I love ice cream” and “I love you.” It would make it easier if they could.
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 11:05 am.
its not that they cant tell the difference its that the words just dont seem as important as if used only for the intense, heartfelt, amazing feeling that they mean
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 11:54 am.
I think delivery has a lot to do with it.
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 1:25 pm.
I tell my kids and my husband all the time that I love them. As for others, it takes a lot for me to say it. My family is kind of awkward when it comes to saying or showing affection. We know that the love is there, but we don’t always say it. However, with my hubby and kids there is no shortage of ‘I love yous’, hugs or kisses.
I have only told 2 guys that I dated that I loved them, and one I ended up marrying. There was a third that I loved very deeply, but would have pulled out my own toe nails before actually telling him. Although he knew it, I would never have uttered the words.
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 9:23 am.
Sad story about the toe nail guy.
I guess, with some people, telling them you love them is like giving them a stick to beat you with?
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 11:06 am.
It was a very one sided love. We had a sort of relationship, that I figure only lasted because it was considered just a ‘friendship’ by him. Had I uttered those 3 little words he would have distanced himself. So, I knew I loved him and I am pretty sure he knew deep down I loved him, but as long as I never actually admitted to it, he could tell himself we were just friends and nothing more. I was so worried I would lose him, that I keep my feelings bottled up, but I think when you truly love someone it is very hard to hide. I eventually found the strength to walk away, but it was a long hurtful road to get there.
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 11:25 am.
Ah, yes. I think we’ve all had one of those.
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 1:26 pm.
I tell my people I love them all the time.
even simple “here’s that info you wanted” emails have love as the last message to my family and vice versa.
Love makes the world go round. right? well if not, it should
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 9:33 am.
My thoughts exactly.
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 11:06 am.
I am an I love you kind of girl and like you Claudia, the older I get the more I say it. One of the things I adore about my husband is that he says it to me every day. He’s missed very few in 28 years. The frequency given or taken doesn’t cheapen the meaning in this house.
I wonder if we are this way because my husband and I didn’t hear it enough when we were growing up? I think we have made it easier for our own kids to express it and they do. Hopefully they feel loved and don’t have to guess at it.
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 9:35 am.
Michelle, I’ve wondered the same thing. My parents didn’t often tell me they loved me, though I knew without a doubt that they did. Maybe I was a “need to hear it” girl growing up in a “don’t say it” house? I’m making up for it now!
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 11:08 am.
I make sure it is the first thing I say to the hubby in the morning, and the last thing at night. Even when one of us is mad at the other. In case something happens, I want to make sure that is the last thing any of the family has heard.
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 9:38 am.
Same here.
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 11:08 am.
Forgot to say, I am an “I love you” girl. To friends, too. I always tell me besties I love them. I even tell a few of my hubby’s best friends, but that is because I think of them as brothers.
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 9:41 am.
To me Toni that is just wrong. I would go bonkers if my partner started telling my girlfriends he loved them. But that might be because to me “I love you” bears such a seal of gravitas that I´m almost afraid of it.
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 10:10 am.
I think this is lovely.
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 11:08 am.
I’m definitely an “I love you” girl. I say it often and I makes me feel good to hear it too. I say it to the hub frequently during the day (and he responds in kind, which is nice), and to my kids. My kids say it a lot too. We actually have known several people (and some WAY too young) over the last few years that died in auto accidents, so I think it can never be said too much. I agree, Claudia, I don’t think it’s cheapened by repetition at all. Yes, in theory, I know the hub and kids love me, and I know my siblings, nieces, nephews,cousins and friends love me, and even though my granddaughter is only 5 months old and can’t talk, I know she loves me too because she is so excited when she sees me, and I love all of them more than a simple ‘I love you’ can say. But, I still like to verbalize it, and I don’t care who is around to hear it. I’m not embarrassed in the slightest.
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 9:51 am.
I’m teary-eyed at this. I agree completely.
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 11:09 am.
While I understand the sentiment behind keeping those words close…I can’t do it. I’m in the same field as you Claudia! I say I love you often, and I’m sincere when I say it.
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 10:33 am.
I think sincerity is the key to the whole thing. Yes, there are levels of love and commitment, but love is love, no matter the level.
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 11:10 am.
I’m very free saying it to my family. I say it a lot to them and my kids say it to me several times a day. Outside my family though . . . I don’t think say it.
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 11:11 am.
I love you, Rachel.
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 11:13 am.
I am free with my love. I say it to my kids and my husband every day, several times a day. Like you, at the end of every phone call and, most importantly, whenever I go out the door. You never know if that might be the last time you see them becuase of a car accident or something. I’d hate for my last words to my husbad to be, “Yeah, I’ll pick up the milk.” I’d much rather it be us saying that we love each other. I give hugs and kisses freely around my family as well. My 6 year old still gives me hugs and kisses every day when he goes off to school – in front of his friends even. No telling how much longer that will last, but it’s nice that I’m still getting them now. I am the most affectionate one in the family so I initiate most of this, but they suffer through it with smiles and I love you’s back.
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 11:24 am.
Hey, just to give you hope, not only did my kids still hug me and say I love you all through their teens, their friends hug me upon entering or leaving the house!! It’s a house of love. Or that was the plan.
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 11:31 am.
My kids too, and their friends. I still get hugs from all the kids (of course they’re young adults now) that were friends with my kids. They spent so much time together either at our house, on the baseball field, etc. Real hugs too, not the fake ones.
And, I love all of them as much as I love mine. Some of them even call me Mom. 
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 12:15 pm.
Same here!! It’s so lovely, isn’t it? I feel enriched.
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 1:27 pm.
Except around family and best friends, I tend to be selective on the I love yous. I’ve said it to both exes. Then there was the one man I dated that I sorely regretted saying it to. What is now a funny story: He was much more serious about me than I him. He went behind my back and asked my mother if he could marry me then turned out to be an extremely jealous, to the point of rages, type. When I told him I wanted nothing more to do with him, he remarried his ex-wife and moved to Alaska. Apparently not too stable.
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 11:29 am.
Eeew. Can I feel sorry for his ex-wife?
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 11:32 am.
Never looked at it that way. Maybe so, although I hear living in Alaska has its perks.
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 11:51 am.
LOL Yeah. 6 months of no sunlight. I’d shoot someone.
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 1:28 pm.
I am definitely like you!
I say “I love you” a lot. Maybe it’s because for me love is love, and it’s almost the least of things to love the human beings in your life… I mean, love is not just for The One. It’s “love your neighbour”, not “like your neighbour”, right?
The only time in my life when I understood why some people are more cautious with it was in a difficult ex-relationship. After a while I felt like I said “I love you” out of habit and to convince myself, rather than from the heart. It was like a reminder that I had committed to this man, and I better honor my commitment. But the right feelings weren’t there anymore (or maybe they’d never been to start with)… So I felt like I shouldn’t have jumped in with so much enthusiasm, and hold back the 3-word phrase a little longer, until I knew I was sure. Unsaying “I love you” is a tricky matter…
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 11:31 am.
Oh, yes, I don’t know if you can really unsay it so much as STOP saying it. LOL Very, very tricky situation.
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 11:34 am.
Even though I know it is a stereotype and fight against it, I am a middle child. I was trapped between the older three and younger two siblings. I carry scars that took a long time to heal. Even typing this sounds silly to me but I do. Raising my daughters I never wanted them to feel unloved. I say it loud and often.
DH is not as comfortable as I am saying the words. But I look at the little things that he does for me. When he spends extra time in the kitchen and does the dishes – I tell him I love him too. I don’t go a day not telling someone close to me that I love them.
Maybe there are so many I Love You people on this blog because we read Goddess books.
What a lovely topic so close to Valentine’s Day. <3
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 12:06 pm.
I think you’re on to something. This blog is a very loving place–and I’m so happy about that! We’re a nice, soft spot to fall on the big, nasty internet.
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 1:29 pm.
Those I love I hear it all the time, but I don’t get to that point easily. Since hubby is in another country I usually text him I love you more than… write a new thing each time
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 12:25 pm.
Oh, sweet!
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 1:29 pm.
One of my favorite quotes is:
“The more you love, the more you can love – and the more intensely you love. Nor is there any limit on how many you can love. If a person had time enough, he could love all of that majority who are decent and just.” – Robert Heinlein
I say “I love you” all the time, to my friends, my family, my boyfriend, my cats. I love a lot of people, and I tell them so often, because I want them to know how much I care, and I never want them to forget that they are important to me. My house is a hug house – when friends come over, we hug, and when they leave, we hug! When family comes over, same thing. I am firmly of the mind that sharing love amongst many and expressing love often does not in any way diminish that love, it only increases it.
<3
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 12:33 pm.
What a beautiful quote. I’d like to think that’s true.
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 1:30 pm.
Me, too.
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 3:24 pm.
I’m in the more reserved “I love you” area.. I think it depends on who it is and how demonstrative the relationship it. Mom was easy to say it and we were back to her, Geezer is not as open about some thing. I say it occasionally to come of my close friends, but not to all of them. I do think those words are special somehow. I guess I think if I just fling ‘em around to anyone then when I do want to convey a really strong emotion – what would I say?
Now.. animals? unless they are some psycho, cranky horrid beast most have my love on site.. and I even love the aforementioned insane cranky ones, but not as much.
I toss around “I love it!” to events or inanimate objects pretty easily.
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 12:50 pm.
I love friends and family all the time. I’m more cautious about flinging it around with people I don’t know as well, or those who might take it the wrong way. *g*
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 1:21 pm.
Like the bug guy.
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 1:33 pm.
Exactly. It would get me a discount on ant spraying, but… *g*
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 3:33 pm.
To convey strong emotion, say as follows: I love YOU.
To convey medium emotion about inanimate object, say as follows: I LOVE it.
To convey slightly annoyed emotion about controversial idea, say as follows: Well, *I* love it.
Sheridan, I’ve got you covered. LOL
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 1:33 pm.
YAY!!
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 1:54 pm.
I’m with you, Claudia! I say it whenever I feel it – which is frequently. I don’t think expressing love often devalues it. As long as the sentiment is sincere, it’s no less powerful. Go forth and love!
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 1:57 pm.
Maybe TGB motto? Go forth and love? I love it. Ha.
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 3:17 pm.
Sounds like something that would come down from Mount Olympus.
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 6:17 pm.
I never used to be much of an I Love you sayer but that changed when a friend was dying. It was her last ditch effort to beat the cancer and was going to be in isolation for a month. I hugged her and told her I loved her.
SInce then I say it more then I used to, mainly to family and close friends.
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 2:01 pm.
Exactly.
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 3:17 pm.
I say I love you often, but only if I mean it. I’m blessed with a couple of friends for whom I’d walk through fire (and who would return the favor) who are told regularly they are loved. In the three years I’ve known them, I’ve come to truly love and value my Ruby-Slippered Sisters (which is just amazing on so many levels), and yes, they know. No phone conversation with one of my children (including those of the in-law variety), siblings, or parents ends without those words because 1)I DO love them & 2)There are no guarantees for tomorrow. Learned that the hard way. Stuff happens. If the last words I speak to you are I love you and I mean them, then no regret.
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 2:05 pm.
Yes, you have to mean it when you say it. I think I mean it for more people, more often than I used to. I think that’s a step in the right direction, humanity-wise.
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 3:19 pm.
I say I love you to hubby & kids every chance I get. I guess because I never heard it from anyone unless I asked point blank do you love me? I wanted to be different and let people know I love them:)
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 2:52 pm.
That’s so great, Gail. You’re creating the reality you want to live.
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 6:18 pm.
Knock ‘em dead, Gail!
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 3:19 pm.
I am more of an “I love you” person now than I was when I was young. Perhaps I never felt lovable and thought others wouldn’t treasure the words. My first true boyfriend never said he loved me even when he asked me to marry him. Needless to say, that one didn’t make it up the aisle because I eventually came to realize I am better than that. I deserve love. When my 1&O fell crazy in love with me, I began a life of “I love you”s so easily. So yeah, older and wiser, I am an “I love you” kind of gal!
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 3:48 pm.
What kind of crazy man doesn’t tell the woman he wants to marry that he loves her?? Way to dodge the bullet, Louise!
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 7:47 pm.
I say “I love you” a lot to my family. I end every one of my phone calls to them with it. lol My cousin Nayla says “love you too” before I even get to say “I love you” because she knows I always say that. I think its important to let the people you love know that you love them. I’ve always had this thing in my mind where I wonder ” What if its the last time I see them?” So I dont think using it too much loses it meaning. Now if you’re only saying it to say it or because you think the other person wants to hear it then yeah you’re taking away the whole meaning. I guess it all depends on your thoughts behind it.
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 3:54 pm.
Motive is everything.
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 7:47 pm.
I believe you can never say it too much, but when I was dating, I was reluctant to say it. I had some idea that I should only say it to the man I wanted to marry. I gave up on that eventually, but I was sparing with it then. I am NOT sparing with it now!
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 5:18 pm.
I’ve gotten way more fluid about saying, too.
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 7:48 pm.
I am an I Love You girl! I say it to my children, my husband, my dog and horse. My best friends get an I love you all the time. My biggest I love you I always reserve for my twin sister. I am blessed to have her. She has just beat stage 4 throat cancer. those three little words are so big in meaning! You can never say them enough! By the way – I love you all for writing such wonderful books and bringing such happiness into peoples lives!
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 5:40 pm.
What wonderful news about your sister! What a blessing.
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 7:48 pm.
Yes1 Thank you. During all her chemo treatments and her stays in the hospital she was never without one of the goddess’s books. I kept her supplied and I think the escape into romance helped.
) See, you all do wonderful things for us just by the written word.
Posted on February 11, 2012 at 12:24 pm.
I say it a lot, but not to a lot of people. And when I was dating I did not say it lightly.
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 6:18 pm.
I didn’t say it lightly when I was dating either. I was always very seriously in love. Very seriously.
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 7:49 pm.
I was about 21 years old the first time my father said “I love you” to me. (It was also the last time) I was so embarrassed I didn’t know how to respond. Neither of my parents were the type to show affection to their older children or say I Love you to any of us (there were nine of us). Most of that comes from the culture we lived in and some from the times (50′s – 60′s). They believed that you showed love through your actions. If you truely loved someone they KNEW it (through your actions) saying it was not necessary. When I had children of my own…. I made sure they heard the words. I also told my parents that it was OK to tell my kids that they were loved and they were allowed to say it just as often as they could. ;o)
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 6:25 pm.
That’s great, Betty!
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 7:50 pm.
In my family, we say “I love you” often. When I fist began dating my husband and we began saying the words, he said it very sparingly, and I said it all the time. I asked him one day why he didn’t say it to me (because it hurt that he wouldn’t say it back to me when I said it to him), and he said that he felt that if he said it too often, the words would lose their importance/significance. I was surprised that he would see it that way… I told him how I saw it…
I would hate to lose someone and have the last words I said to them be something other than “I love you”. I do not say “I love you” as an automatic response; I say it when I think of it… and why shouldn’t the people you love know that you love them? When I say “I love you” it’s because I LOVE YOU, and I want you to know it.
When I think of how much I love my mom, I tell her. “Mom, I love you. You’re wonderful.” When I see my children do something outrageous and my heart swells, I say “I love you, boys so much. You make mommy happy.” And when my husband makes me crepes in bed when I want to sleep in on the weekend, I say “I love you.”
I’ve never said “I love you” to any boyfriend before my husband, but since I first said it to him, I’ve said it at least three time per day. And I’ll never stop.
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 6:53 pm.
I dated a guy like that. We dated a long time and I never understood his position on it. I still don’t, but I do understand that some people really look at it that way. I’m just not one of them.
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 7:52 pm.
Oh amen to the lots of I Love Yous, as long as you mean it when you say it and show that you mean it in other ways too not just the words, then they don’t lose significance. I’d want the last words a loved one heard from me to be I Love You if I can help it.
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 10:26 pm.
I am a total I Love You girl. Fun enough, I don’t say it to my parents or siblings very often but I use it liberally with my husband, children and friends. Strange!
Posted on February 10, 2012 at 11:11 pm.
Are you an I love you kind of girl or do you hold your I love you in reserve, for that special moment? Oh no way, I say it all the time, life is so short, you never know what is around the corner, so you want to make sure that is the last and first thing they always remember, that you love them?
Posted on February 11, 2012 at 7:55 pm.
I Love You is a part of my day every day. I believe love is forever and you must say and show it every day. Some people only say it on a Special Holiday. I feel love is everlasting and you have to show everyone, that you mean it from the heart. This also includes your famiy,pets,friends, etc. Life is to short not to live it to the fullest.
Posted on February 12, 2012 at 3:29 pm.
I’m the kind who hold the ‘Ilove yous” in reserve. Probably should say it more. I say it Valentine’s Day though!
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Posted on February 13, 2012 at 8:42 am.
I get scared when any guy says i love you to me.
Posted on February 14, 2012 at 7:09 am.
I can’t say it enough to my kids and I can’t hear it enough from them
My husband and I say it everynight before we go to sleep.
Posted on February 14, 2012 at 9:23 am.
Fantastic contest! Happy Birthday to all…
Posted on February 14, 2012 at 9:40 am.
Congrats on Five Years. Would like to win a 5-pack.
Posted on February 14, 2012 at 11:16 am.
I tell my husband once a day I a day I love Him, I has been 15 years.
Posted on February 14, 2012 at 11:48 am.
I’m an “I love you” girl. Often I embelish it with a hug and almost always get an “I love you”
Posted on February 14, 2012 at 7:38 pm.