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If you’ve been around this blog much, then you know my good friend, critique partner, and fellow author, Deb Marlowe. She’s joining me today to talk about shopping. Why? Because at this time of year it’s on everyone’s mind and even in the news—and we’ve both always been the ones who didn’t like to shop on a good day, let alone on Black Friday.
Deb: Yes, I definitely missed the shopping gene, much to my mother’s dismay. She is never so happy than when shopping. But I’ve always dreaded a trip to the mall—even when you didn’t have to worry about pepper spray. I was always the ‘Get in, get what you came for and RUN!’ kind of girl.
SJ: Hubby and I call that a surgical strike. And that’s what I used to prefer, too. Why did you like that better?
Deb: Two reasons: the girls. You know what I mean. Even when I was at my thinnest I had a big chest and it was always hard to find something that fit and didn’t make me look like a lightskirt, to use the Regency vernacular.
SJ: For me (with a relatively tiny chest), it was the overall size thing (I used to be a size 26/28). Also, I never had any fashion sense. I’m not visual, so I don’t pay attention to clothes. Thus I have never known what was in and what was not. Not being visual also meant I had little sense of what looked good on me.
Deb: But we’ve both come around a little in recent years. You might actually find us out shopping for clothes these days—and not hating it! Why? Three words: Shopping with Girlfriends. Real girlfriends. The kind who love you, support you and aren’t afraid to tell you when you’ve pulled something hideous off the rack. And more specifically: Shopping with Claudia.
SJ: Yes, our own Goddess Claudia Welch/Claudia Dain. If she ever gives up the writing gig, she could make her fortune being a personal shopper. Thanks to her, I now kind of know (a little … sometimes) what looks matronly, what looks tacky, and what Claudia would glance at and say, “No. Oh dear, no. Never.”
Deb: I know just what you mean. Claudia has wonderful taste and could give Stacy and Clinton from “What Not to Wear” a run for their money. Somehow she just knows what looks good on a person, and what doesn’t. She’s not afraid to tell you, either. And she’s a whirlwind, breezing through the sale rack, past the jewelry section and bam! She’s put an outfit together that flatters you tremendously—in about 30 seconds.
SJ: She even makes allowances for personal style and individual shape. She’ll pick something that I love, but that I know she herself would or could never wear. She appreciates that I like a little flash and flare. And she’s practical, too. She’ll point out that a particular shirt might fall apart after a few wearings or might require constant ironing. I’ve started paying closer attention to everything about the clothes.
Deb: I never thought shopping could be fun, but going out with girlfriends, we have a blast! Even the retail workers remark on how much fun we have, and how honest we are. 
And it’s true—even when I am out on my own, I start to hear their voices in my head, saving me from myself.
So if you hate shopping for clothes, consider finding your most fashionable friend (or Claudia) to shop with, and then hit the stores. It makes all the difference!
Do like clothes shopping? Did you go out and hit the sales for Black Friday? Do you shop with friends or alone? Do you prefer a “surgical strike” or a meandering day at the mall? Oh, and one lucky commenter will win a copy of Deb Marlowe’s latest, How to Marry a Rake!
Well, I already have Deb’s latest and really liked it.
Clothes shopping is okay. Jeans come from ShopKo and tops from Herbergers.
Avoid Black Friday.
Rather shop alone, but since my mom passed, I take her best friend to Hallmark when she is here for Thanksgiving.
I can wonder the mall, but since there are not many stores, it does not take long.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 2:59 am.
Hi TinaF!
I’m so glad you enjoyed HTMAR! If you are picked as the winner, email me and we’ll try to find another book for you!
Where are you? The malls in my hometown are mostly gone too, giving way to big strips, but here in NC there are malls still going strong, and some elaborate spots that mix both.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 8:10 am.
North West Montana.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 3:08 pm.
I’m a binge shopper. I won’t shop for months, and then, I’ll go on a shopping binge. As a teenager I was much more of a meandering shopper, but these days with time constraints, I have to be much more of a surgical shopper. I’ve only been shopping once on Black Friday, and I’ll never do that, again. The loss of sleep isn’t worth the crowds or a “good” deal.
And as promised – here’s a link to my etsy shop. I’ve only listed 4 items so far, but I hear my bed calling my name. I hope to get more listed after I walk the kiddos to school tomorrow morning.
http://www.etsy.com/shop/breatheinspiration
Any suggestions are welcome because I’m such a newbie at this, lol.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 3:06 am.
Gorgeous jewelry, Janae! I can’t wait to see more!
When I first got married, I did a few years of Black Friday shopping with my mom, mother-in-law and sisters in law. It was fun in a group, more as a way to spend time together and make Christmas plans. But I haven’t done it in years, since we mostly stay home for Thanksgiving now.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 8:25 am.
Thanks, Deb. I’m discovering that listing on etsy is kind of time consuming. IDK why I thought it’d be easier, lol. Now, that I know their recommended picture size, things might go a little faster.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 3:22 pm.
Ooo, that postcard necklace is so pretty! Lovely, Janae.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 9:46 am.
Thank you, Dana. I’ve a few more of those postcard necklaces/bracelets that I need to finish. I’m debating whether to use more pearls, other beads like Swarovski crystals, or a mixture of beads.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 3:26 pm.
All of the above! I’m going to bookmark your site!
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 4:34 pm.
Yay! Thanks! For bookmarking me and the opinions.:)
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 5:44 pm.
I like the postcard necklace, too! Very creative.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 11:09 am.
Thanks, Sabrina. I was just telling Dana S. that I have more of those postcard pendants, but I can’t decide what kind of beads to use – more pearls, Swarovskis, mixture, etc. I’m open to suggestions.:)
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 3:31 pm.
I think any of those will work. I like a mix myself. You could also throw in some gold-colored ones. Or silver.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 4:22 pm.
Oooh, metallic beads. I like mixing the beads, too. I just found some beautiful pink Peruvian opals. I know I have a few in my stash, but I’m not sure of how many. Thanks!
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 6:07 pm.
I love those tea cups! I have a small obsession with tea cups.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 11:27 am.
I love them, too. They’re part of a Homer Laughlin Nautilus set that I found at an estate sale a couple of years ago. Unfortunately, it didn’t include the teapot or the creamer. I should have pulled out the plates for Thanksgiving, but my sister came with her 4 boys. Not worth the risk, lol.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 3:41 pm.
I don’t like clothes shopping, but if I must, I take my sister. She is brutally honest, which is a great help. We tend to do a blitz attack. We actually sit for a coffee & strategise & then BAM hit the shops.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 3:40 am.
Yay for your sister, Mary! Brutally honest is a must in a shopping buddy! Saves money and possible future embarrassment.
At least, in my case!
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 9:16 am.
Shopping for clothes is not my favorite, BUT, I ADORE the mall!!! Anyone who knows me, knows I ADORE malls, and crowded malls for Christmas are my favorite kind!!! I know, I sound ready for the loony bin, but I can’t help it, I just love them!!!
It’s about the smell, mainly. Is there anything better than the smell of a mall? I don’t think there is. The mixture air conditioner with that special something that reminds of you clothes and food and shoes and HEAVEN!!!! I’m known for spending several hours at the mall, and by several I mean, eight, nine, FIFTEEN, and loving it!!! If they’re doing the 24 marathon for Christmas, I may do it this year! God, how I love malls. I could go to them every day and just not get sick of them! When I travel ANYWHERE, first thing I want to see is the malls. Who cares about tourist attractions or museums or whatever? GIVE ME MALLS!!!
Shopping for shoes has been my favorite lately, I’ve been on a girly addiction, but I love Kipling purses (yeah, one brand, lol, though, I’ll go LeSport Sac and something else colorful), stuffed animals, fairies, pillows and, many other things.
I love walking into bookstores, though all my book shopping has been done on Amazon lately. Just being there feels like home. Also, I like buying books as gifts.
So, yes, I LOVE SHOPPING and MALLS.
Oh, and my mom is my favorite shopping buddy. Alone is next. Definitely NOT shopping with girlfriends. My friends are too different from me for me to ever enjoy it.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 5:44 am.
I only use le sport sac, B. I have nearly every style that they carry, including their garment bag, and computer case. They last forever!
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 8:27 am.
Cail, I’m so jealous!!! I wish they sold them here!!! I totally plan to buy more next time I’m in the US and near a store! Enjoy’em for me!!!
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 1:29 pm.
Also, I like them for the patterns, actually, more than anything else. They’re adorable!
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 1:30 pm.
If you weren’t so far away, B, I would introduce you to my mother!
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 9:18 am.
Deb, how do you know I’m so far away?? I could be just next door to you
But you’re right, I’m not. I’m in Brazil. Though, I’m sure I’d LOVE to meet your mom! SHOPPING TRIP!!!!
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 1:32 pm.
Funny you should say that about the smell because Hubby and I tried mall walking, and the smell was one of the things that made him veto it. He didn’t like the food cooking smell! Needless to say, I was not bothered by it one bit.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 11:12 am.
Sabrina, that’s interesting. I’m usually not bothered by food smells in malls, but there’s this particular mall, and this particular restaurant that makes me gag every time. I think it’s because there’s a body shop thingie (is that what’s called? Those stores with soap, shower salts, gels, etc), and the smell is sooo strong, that combined with the food court, makes me feel sick. I have to hold my breath when I walk by that part. Every time. It’s so interesting. And I’m a mall lover! Otherwise, bring me the smells of the food court
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 1:36 pm.
I hate shopping for clothes or anything. I do it because I have to. I really hate shopping for clothers because I can never find anything that fits right. I am short and a little on the heavy side so therefore nothing fits right. Thay are always to long and the croch of pants hang to your knees. I really hate that.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 7:41 am.
You are singing my song, QL! I’m short too. That weird crotch thing happens to me all the time.
There’s something I never thought I would type on a blog! Ha!
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 9:20 am.
I generally prefer to shop by myself. That way I can take my time if I want to (provided that the crowds aren’t huge since I have issues with crowds) or I can be in and out of there in less than 30 minutes. The only place that I can happily spend a fair bit of time is my favourite bookshop. The ladies there actually recognise me when I walk in (could have something to do with the fact that I am there darn near every fortnight to pick up an order that I have placed). No Black Friday sales here but the last bargain I scored was my proper dance shoes, they were over $230 but I got them for $150 which was a damn fine bargain if I do say so myself. I wore those shoes tonight and all I can say is my feet hurt! (could have something to do with the fact that they are patent leather shoes and I was wearing tights not socks so they caused some good sized blisters on my poor feets).
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 8:24 am.
Hi Kelly!
Oh, book shopping is a whole ‘nother thing! I could pull a B in a bookstore and stay all day. LOVE a great bookstore. And in there, I’m fine either way–browsing alone or discussing every book/series/author with the girls!
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 9:24 am.
I would be set if I could give books for Christmas and birthdays but I have been banned on the whole book giving thing by my family since they are no longer readers. Thankfully I have a general idea on what I am getting my mum (we are doing a secret Santa sort of thing – saves money) and all the kids. The two boys game station games, for the under 2 girl – a big stuffed toy and the two older girls – clothes. Just have to keep an eye out for the bargains.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 9:51 am.
I would be in such trouble if I couldn’t give books as gifts! Although I think this is a case of “That’s what I want the most, so it must also be what *they* want the most!
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 2:31 pm.
My technique is to find something I like and buy it in every color. It’s a tradition I learned from my mother, who had an equally difficult time in stores. In fact, on Saturday, I managed to get in and out of an outlet mall in about 20 min by going to the one store where I always find something, and getting the long sleeve version of something I liked in 5 different colors. I was very proud of myself (although somewhat poorer after the ‘surgical strike.’)
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 8:26 am.
Cail, this is a brilliant strategy–and one that I’ve only learned in the last few years. Although you are right, it is a significant one time investment! But it does bring a smile every time you put on something that is *just right!*
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 9:32 am.
I used to LIVE to shop. But now, not so much. Going to the mall with two little boys in tow is a specific kind of torture they should reserve for only the most hardened on criminals. And you are right -I have never seen Claudia looking less than fabulous, even in jeans. I might have to run my Nationals outfit by her, or Erin Knightley -or both- before I buy it, lol! ;D
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 9:04 am.
OMG! Hahaha! I just re-read my comment. HARDENED criminals, HARDENED! LMAO…. Freudian slip? Oh, God, I almost fell out of my chair laughing….
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 9:41 am.
Dana, as you know, I have lived that specific kind of torture. Enough to kill anyone’s love of shopping!
Ah, preparation for Nationals. That is a whole other blog…suitcases rolling up to your door, the living room runway and the occasional Great Jewelery Debate. And lots of giggling!
Are you going this year? It’s a whole process!
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 10:00 am.
I am going! I am super excited, because it will be my first. I have sternly told myself that I WILL NOT get my wardrobe fallback of a black dress, but I will pick something with COLOR for the awards dinner outfit. Maybe grey. Hahaha….
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 10:51 am.
Sounds like we have a mission! Yay!
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 1:01 pm.
Good Morning and welcome Deb.
Clothes shopping is a surgical strike. The code words for shopping with friends is, “I need to get a dress for a thing.” Then we all go out to dinner and buy a fabulous pair of shoes and I run out during lunch and get the actual dress.
Black Friday is a bonding time for the Bombshell and I. We get up at 5 and get coffee. We go to certain stores (Macy’s we love you! And Shane at Lowes, you made The Brain’s Christmas!). But…we do not do the door buster things. People go nuts for them, and honestly the chances of getting the item is so slim that we’d rather save our sanity and leave those deals for the people that REALLY want them. Pepper spray and trampling… (shuddah).
Yeppers, I am a total lack of suprise about Claudia. She’s a fashionista. And Rachel’s shoes… omg! I’ve seen them on her site and I wants them…
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 9:17 am.
Morning Pesky!
Yes, shopping as bonding. This is the only reason I’ve become anything close to a convert!
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 10:09 am.
Hi Deb….love your books.
I don’t go out on Black Friday, I like my shopping with a little less of the crazy.
I love to shop, usually by myself or with my daughter, but I will go with friends from time to time.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 9:21 am.
Thank you so much, Kris!
Yes, the crazy. And this year it looked chock full of it!
I’m sure that shopping with your daughter is a world apart from what happens with my boys.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 10:16 am.
Hi Deb & Sabrina!
Having gone shopping with Claudia, I know exactly what you’re talking about.
And how lucky we all are to have her.
Even still, I’m not a huge shopper, if I can avoid it. I even did all of my Black Friday shopping from my laptop from the quiet solitude of my bedroom. All of my family is out of town too. So I ordered all of my Christmas gifts online this year and had them sent (free shipping, of course) to my mother for her to wrap on my behalf. (Well except for her gift. I did get Erin Knightley’s help with that AND that one I’ll ship on my own.) But it was so nice not to brave the crowds and other insanity and just be done. *sigh*
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 9:24 am.
See? Between Erin’s packing skills and her classic and CLASSY wardrobe, we can count ourselves lucky. ;D
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 9:44 am.
Morning Ava!
I did the same thing this year! Ordered lots of stuff online and paid no shipping.
It’s so much more fun to buy stuff for other people anyway!
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 10:19 am.
I missed my mom’s shop for ever and for anything gene. I go for exactly what I want, find it and leave. I would never be caught near a store on Black Friday. The idea makes me wince.
When I go clothes shopping I usually go with my mom. That’s her business, as she works at Chico’s. So she’s handy to have around. It just makes her nuts that I can only stand it so long and I’m done.
I also hate trying things on. Try to avoid it whenever I can but that usually leads to more trips to the mall for an exchange. You think I’d learn.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 9:27 am.
I do love Chicos, Lori! I hope she gets you a discount!
It makes me sad to disappoint my mom, but even with the girls I can’t take a whole day expedition. Except, as noted, at the bookstore. Where they have comfy chairs and hot drinks.
I am a shopping wimp.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 10:21 am.
Chico’s!!! It’s my favorite clothing store!! Your mom works there? She’s so lucky.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 11:15 am.
I used to love shopping. I could spend hours at the mall trying to find the perfect pair of jeans or the perfect handbag, but then I had kids. Shopping isn’t as fun with screaming children and trips to the mall are now get in and get out as fast as I can trips. I have started shopping more and more online something I never thought I would do.
I usually set a side a day for Christams shopping. I leave the kids at home and my best friend and I hit up the mall. We make a day of it. We have lunch and then after shopping we head to the movies to unwind.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 9:40 am.
Hi Amy!
People can be strange around kids when you take them shopping, too. Getting too close or asking odd questions, etc. I know most people mean well, but it can be nerve wracking!
Shopping and a movie with your girlfriend sounds like a good day!
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 10:28 am.
You guys! I’m so embarrassed! And flattered! And embarrassed. What a lovely thing to say! Thank you.
And I’m definitely a surgical strike kind of shopper. You know that. When you’re shopping for a pile of outfits, it just takes longer and you have to go to more racks to get it all, but it’s definitely an in-and-out as quickly as possible kind of tactical operation.
I’m the NAVY SEAL of shopping.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 9:52 am.
Haha, the Navy Seal of shopping. I love it.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 10:31 am.
You are the queen and the best secret shopping weapon ever! Thank you!
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 10:36 am.
No, you’re the Obi Wan Kenobi of shopping.
I have learned so much from shopping with you! Thanks for being our shopping guide.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 11:35 am.
Hey, hey now. Obi Wan DIED! I am not willing to die for the perfect blouse. I am willing to shed blood, just not actually die.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 1:50 pm.
Just don’t shed it on the blouse we just paid good money for! LOL!
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 2:33 pm.
I love to shop especially in book or movie stores. My husband usually takes and then he finds an out of the way corner and waits for me.He went to black friday to get the majority of our Christmas presents(it’s the only way we can afford gifts on our teenagers gift list.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 10:10 am.
Gail! Clearly you have the best husband ever!
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 10:42 am.
While my hubby likes to come with me, but he drives me crazy because he is right behind me the entire time.. If I stop suddenly, he barrels into me.. Personally, the local mall is so geared to the college kids, it’s not worth going to if you are over 30. Luckily, we have some great stand-alone stores.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 10:30 am.
He’s probably terrified he’ll get lost!
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 10:33 am.
I used to have that problem (things geared to college kids) when I shopped all the time in the large women’s stores. The clothes were either too young or matronly. No in between. That’s why I’m so glad I can wear regular clothes now.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 11:17 am.
Mine is not a shopper, Cate–unless he’s shopping for tools or grown up toys! Then he’s genius!
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 12:39 pm.
I love clothes shopping and my even more so when I can do it without time restraints or looking for something specific. Mostly I do it alone now. I did enjoy it with friends and my daughters.
Black Friday was a must with my Mom, and now I do it with DD#2. We have so much fun planning it. We go for the fun and just happen to pick up some bargains. Although this year it wasn’t quite as much fun. The midnight hours brought out a different crowd that didn’t quite get along with the traditional early bird Black Friday folks. The bars were still open and I swear there were shoppers who came “primed”.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 11:00 am.
Whoa, that sounds alarming! I was out on Black Friday this year because Mom wanted to hit the sales at Hudson Belk since they don’t have one in her town. She got all kinds of bargains while I took my niece and nephew and son around the mall to toy stores and the carousel.
Then I went back the next day and bought stuff at Belk’s myself. The bargains were amazing! I bought two $200 suits for $60! And I got some cute cheap sweaters, too.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 11:20 am.
Not a good combo! But I’ve seen predictions that it went well enough, the stores will do it again…
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 12:41 pm.
That is my fear Deb. I was so hoping it would be a bust and go back to the old way, but $ drives it all. This may have been my last Black Friday, or at least when the stores open. I’ll go later and get my sleep.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 3:20 pm.
I like shopping either by myself or with friends. But I am not lover of the mad rush, risking life and limb for a deal… It is just not worth it. I used to be the shopper that got to the mall upon opening and was out of there before the mall got to that frenzy pitch. I could grab all my purchases, sit down for a nice leisurely lunch and walk out the door and a few steps I would be at my car. Not having to keep saying to myself “where in the h_ll did I park my car”. Now it’s a lot of gift cards and on line shopping.. I just am not a lover of mass hysteria at the mall…
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 11:10 am.
i was surprised this year. We meandered in around 11, and I got a parking space close to the door. Of course, by the time we came out it was pretty filled, but either we were in the second wave or something.
I’m with you, though. I don’t like the mass hysteria and the lines.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 11:27 am.
I think going early is a great idea every day of the year, Kathleen! In and out and on with your day! Unless I’m with the girls, that’s the way I like it!
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 12:42 pm.
I’ve never been much of a shopper. Aside from my unfortunate lack of ability to coordinate colors, I’m cursed with a pear shaped figure with a small waist, so any pants big enough to fit my hips are swimming on my waist, plus I’m short-waisted, so dresses don’t fit me either. I’ve been known to try on 20 different pairs of pants and still not find something that fits. If I do find anything that fits or is close enough to be tailored, I promptly buy 3 or 4 pairs in whatever colors they have.
These days, if I need something nice, I pretty much just head right to Chico’s. I can easily spend a few hours there. Their clothes are stylish and It seems like they are fitted for real women, not juniors and models.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 11:15 am.
JenM, you are my shopping twin under the skin!!!
Although I can be good with color, that’s about it. And even then, I’m not ever sure which colors go together fashion-wise (I tend to be very matchy-matchy, which is apparently not fashionable). Like you, I’m short-waisted and pear-shaped, so pants are a pain. And since I have HUGE calves, I only wear pants (you do NOT want to see me in a dress).
Maybe Chico’s caters to that size, because that’s my favorite store, too!
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 11:30 am.
Yup, matchy-matchy, that’s me. It’s the only way I feel safe wearing colors. Honestly, you wouldn’t believe the get-ups I used to put on. I think back on some of them and just cringe. These days, for work, I pretty much just wear black, white and red since those are the only colors I feel safe combining LOL.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 12:04 pm.
Jen, I have a friend who only wears black. She says that way everything goes together. I do like black, but I actually love black, white and red together!
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 12:44 pm.
I love shopping for just about anything. I do like clothes shopping, but not on black friday. Unless I know specifically what I want. Mostly for me I just get toys for my kids and some appliances, or electronics/video games. I did go out on black friday and got toys & video games for my kids and a few other relatives. I went out on thanksgiving at 10pm to wal-mart. The store was crazy.
I would love to win this book so please choose me for the giveaway. Deb is a new author for me and always looking for new authors to check out.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 11:20 am.
Chris, we pick the names randomly, but I’ll keep my fingers crossed for you! *G*
If you don’t win, you really should check Deb out. She writes wonderful books!
I didn’t know Walmart had opened at 10 on Thanksgiving night. Wow. Must have been nuts there!
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 11:43 am.
Chris–You are brave! Walmart at 10 pm sounds like a danger zone! Were you after one of the big sale items? And did you get it?
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 12:57 pm.
Welcome, Deb! Glad to have you here!
When I go shopping for myself, I’m that panicked lady who runs up to the sales reps holding up an outfit saying, “Does this go?” (I learned from Stacy and Clinton not to say, “Does this match?” It doesn’t have to match, it only has to go.) I much prefer shopping for other people, but I don’t usually buy clothes. Maybe that’s why it’s more fun to shop for other people.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 11:21 am.
I have been known to use a sales lady a time or two. The problem is, they aren’t always honest. They’re trying to sell you something. Although the Chico’s salesladies have been pretty good to me. *G*
I prefer going with the girls, though. I know I’ll get valid, honest opinions.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 11:45 am.
Thank you, Susan! I love Mt Oly!
Shopping was easier when matchy-matchy was in.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 12:58 pm.
I hate clothes shopping. I am a fluffy woman who is also petite (5’4″). For some strange reason, most clothing manufacturers seem to think thY women my size are all 10′ tall Amazons! I can’t find anything that doesn’t need to be tailored or altered in some form or another, even those labeled “petite.”. And don’t get me started on shoes. My feet are small and wide with one foot 1/2 size larger and slightly wider than the other. I wear my Columbia sandals up until October when I subject my poor feet to closed toe shoes for another winter season.
Black Friday, OTOH, is something looked forward to every year with my sister and I both taking the day off of work and spending the night getting the doorbusters and whatever other bargains we can. This is the day we both do the bulk of or Christmas shopping and we both love the thrill of the hunt.
BTW, one of my face things to do this time,of year is to keep a box of candy canes in my car. When I go through a drive up like the bank or fast food restaurant or even when I am shopping, when the cashier hands me my change, I hand them a candy cane and wish them a Merry Christmas. I always get a huge smile and a thanks. I spent 9 years in the retail trenches, so I know how tiring it can be and how unappreciated you can feel, especially this time of year.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 11:37 am.
ladydawgfan, I know what you mean. I’m 5’4″, too, which is just a wee bit too tall for petite, but it’s certainly too short for everything else. When I was heavier, I used to get so angry, because the assumption was that “petite” meant small. Yeah, no. Drove me nuts! So I totally sympathize.
And shoes are the worst for me. One of mine is slightly wider, too, and my feet are LONG and wide. That’s not easy either (try finding a size 10.5/11 EE in a regular shoe store). That’s why I hate shoe shopping!
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 11:50 am.
ladydawgfan, I need to shop where you live and you need to shop where I live….I’m a little over 5’8, and here everyone seems to think that if you are fluffy you are not very tall, so I look like I’m waiting for a flood.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 12:10 pm.
Aww..that’s so sweet, ladydawfan! A nice moment like that can be such a lift!
Don’t get me started on shoes.
My feet are roughly shaped like Perry the Platypus. Short and square. We used to have a great Wide Shoe Warehouse here, but it went out of busines. Not through neglect from me, though!
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 2:37 pm.
Morning Ladies! Deb, awesome to see you on Mt. Oly! Sabrina, just read your last book. It was awesome! LOVED it.
I TOTALLY agree with having the Navy SEAL approach to shopping (with a friend as your secreat weapon!). My secret weapon is one of my younger sisters. I am the type of person who shops for special occasions only. Then I find something that works, and buy it in every color. My sister is a machine. We had two family weddings during one weekend last fall. When I showed up with my usual black dress option for both, she just shook her head, said I was hopeless, opened her Mary Poppins bag, and pulled out two dresses and a couple sets of earrings and chucked them at me. They worked great, I had two awesome outfits. The woman is amazing…think I’ll keep her around
I avoid Black Friday like the plague. I’d rather pay another $10 for an item and avoid the crowd. Have a good day!
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 11:57 am.
Thanks! I’m so glad you enjoyed the book.
That is so funny about your sister! My sister is like that with food and drink. When I went to California for a conference where she joined me, she showed up with enough bottled water and snacks to take care of an army! *G* Oh, and she pulled some jewelry out of her bag, too, which I ended up using for my costume.
Sisters are the best!
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 1:02 pm.
Wow–now that is prepared. Is my sister reading this? She needs a Mary Poppins bag! Or I do…
Yes, I’d say she was definitely a keeper!
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 2:39 pm.
I have to say that I enjoyed shopping a lot more when I was younger and it didn’t take hours just to find something that fits me correctly. I am with Deb because the girls are larger than average, and it makes me have to buy at least a size larger in shirts–problem is that my shoulders are comparitively narrow. So the look is usually rather odd as the girls are straining to get out or I look like I’m a kid wearing an adult’s clothes on my shoulders. :p Pants are even tougher because I have long legs, big booty and smaller waist, so in order for the pants to fit around the butt, I have a gaping hole in the back of my waist… drives me bananas. Finding a bra is more and more difficult too–the stores seem to think that if you have big boobs you need a ‘meemaw’ bra…I still want a pretty bra that doesn’t show if my shirt is lower cut. It’s really hard to find one that gives good support, doesn’t cut in and doesn’t show in your shirt’s neckline.
But, I love shopping with girlfriends…just not necessarily for clothes. Most of my girlfriends can meander around the mall, but we are usually looking in the Yankee Candle stores, Bath & Body Works, bookstores, antique stores, Kirklands, and stuff like that. We especially LOVE Half Price Books. That was the only place that I ventured out on Black Friday. I have had the sinus infection from hell that turned into bronchitis and been sick for over two weeks…FINALLY starting to feel better, but didn’t really want to be around too many people while I was coughing up my lungs.
Got my free $5 gift card and went home to shop another day.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 12:08 pm.
Aw, Julie sorry that you’re sick. This is the worst time of year to be sick.
I’m with you–my favorite shopping is in non-clothing stores. But now I can almost tolerate clothes shopping. Almost. *G*
I have the same problem with pants, though. I hate that gap at the back of the waist!
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 1:04 pm.
Feel better, Julie!
Kirklands…my mom’s fave! We have to drag her out of there!
My sister calls the candle and bath stuff stores The Smelly Stores. She has asthma and can’t stay in long!
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 2:48 pm.
Ooooh, Kirklands!! One of the many stores that I miss from my life in Mississippi!! All I needed was someone to hand me Carte Blanche and I would have cleaned that store out!! Loved EVERYTHING there!!
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 5:43 pm.
Try clothes shopping in Quebec where everyone is size two and they have tiny feet. I buy shoes my size when I find them. Was once told to shop at the transvestite stores for shoes my size–I’d have done it but I couldn’t find one here. Not sure, the heels might have been too high.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 12:11 pm.
Aw, Maggie, I sympathize, since I have size 11 shoes. Can you buy from Zappo’s? I just started doing that. They have more variety and they have free shipping either way, which makes it easier.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 1:06 pm.
Hi Maggie–Okay, now I must find a transvestite store. LOL. I’ll bet the have the best costume jewellery!
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 2:54 pm.
I do like to shop. Both surgical and more meandering. But I never shop on black Friday. A good deal never thrills me. Getting what I want, when I want it, without waiting in line, thrills me.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 12:25 pm.
LOL, Rachel! My brother laughs at me for my frugal ways, but my parents raised us all that way. It just didn’t “take” with him.
But I don’t go out of my way for a bargain. I wouldn’t have been out on Black Friday at all except for my mom needing to go.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 1:08 pm.
Hi Rachel…I want it all, and at a good price too!
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 2:55 pm.
Howdy, Deb! Nice to see you again!
I loath clothes shopping, though sometimes I get lucky with a really great salesperson and they make it tolerable.
I don’t do Black Friday.. and other than the years I worked in retail and had no choice but to be there, I only went once voluntarily and that was enough.
Definitely a “surgical strike” unless I am wandering chatting with friends, but that is rarely about the shopping. I will wander through the shops at Disneyland, though.
and I think I will now fly to wherever Claudia is and drag her with me when I have to go shopping from now on.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 12:39 pm.
Trust me, having Claudia with you would be well worth it (although you seem to me to dress very nicely!). Karen Rose took advantage of her presence a couple of times and was thrilled with the results.
Too bad that Claudia is a brilliant writer and all. Otherwise, she could hire herself out to celebrities. *G*
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 1:10 pm.
Pondering this… especially on the days when writing is so HARD.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 1:54 pm.
Thanks, Sabrina
I just make use of a few decent pieces I somehow found… it is usually a rare occurrence that I look anywhere near stylish.
and yes, Claudia could have a side business of personal shopper.. in between books, of course.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 3:03 pm.
Good to see you too, Sheridan!
That Claudia’s a treasure! I recommend everyone find one!
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 2:56 pm.
I’m definitely going to have to move closer to you guys. I NEED SHOPPING GIRLFRIENDS. I don’t have any and I can see that I need to remedy that.
I don’t shop Black Friday, but I’m here, right now, clicking away through Cyber Monday. Gotta love those hot deals and look, no crowds! But no giggling or hot chocolate, either. :-/
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 1:05 pm.
Come join us up here, Karen!! We would love to have you.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 1:11 pm.
Hmmm, how about a writing/shopping retreat, Karen? That would be a blast!
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 2:58 pm.
Hmmm Karen, I really don’t like to shop but I’d be happy to drive the 2 hrs to meet you to go shopping and giggle and have hot chocolate! Sounds like a fun way to spend a day if you ask me. Maybe you’d even kickstart me into wanting to shop!!!
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 3:45 pm.
You mean you’re supposed to shop for clothes more often than once every three to five years?
Yes, I have no fashion sense. I hate trying on clothes because they never look good on me and the only help is from the size 2 sales assistant who makes everything look good.
Black Friday? What’s this thing? I’m still comatose after turkey on Friday and have no desire to see the inside of a mall.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 1:27 pm.
Beth, LOL! If I could get away with shopping every 3 to 5 years, I would.
Yes, I always get those size 2 assistants who say inane things that show they have no idea what it’s like to be larger than average. Sheesh!
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 1:31 pm.
Well, I don’t go often, Beth! But if I go once a year, it’s more fun to take someone along to help.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 3:14 pm.
I have love/hate relationship with shopping. I do love shopping for clothes but find all the shirts I like are either too short or too clingy. I have those dreaded extra pounds hanging around the middle and it just doesn’t look good to resemble a sausage. I usually go with my daughter and we can have our girl time and just meander through store after store.
I did go out by myself Black Friday afternoon for a little while. Penneys had the pants I wear that are normally priced $42 for $14.88. I just couldn’t pass that one up
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 1:41 pm.
That’s what Black Friday really is good for–getting great deals on stuff you usually buy anyway!
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 3:14 pm.
That is a bargain, Pamiam. Is it just me? It seems like I never buy myself something that isn’t on sale, but for someone else, I’m more likely to go all out.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 3:16 pm.
When it comes to clothes shopping – ugh! I’m a petite plus size, so finding cute clothes that fit can be a challenge. I could also use Claudia’s advice; sometimes I think those fitting room mirrors are rigged to make even the most hideous things look okay. I always hope for a quick in and out trip, but it rarely happens.
If we’re talking book shopping, I like to linger and take my sweet time.
I skip the mania of Black Friday and find online deals instead.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 1:53 pm.
Now, see, I think my appearance in those mirrors is always a shock. I don’t realize how big my behind is until I see myself in a three-way mirror. Then I’m appalled!
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 3:15 pm.
The same thing happens to me, Molly. That’s why having friends who will tell you the truth has been such a great thing!
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 3:19 pm.
I, too, missed the shopping gene. It’s just not my thing. I fake it pretty well when I’m with my sister or daughter. But I’d prefer to stay home and shop on-line, if possible. If I physically have to leave the house for a shopping trip, I try to take care of as much as possible, with as few stops as possible!
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 2:06 pm.
I do more and more shopping online. I just don’t like to do it with clothes, because of fit issues.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 3:16 pm.
Yes, friends keep trying to convince me to use Zappos, but with my feet, I’m afraid of a million returns.
You’re nice to fake it, LSU!
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 3:23 pm.
I love clothes shopping. I could spend all day clothes shopping (as long as we factor in shoes and makeup, whee!)
I hate Black Friday, though, ugh. Fail!
As far as shopping, I mostly go out alone, because I don’t really have any fashion-conscious girlfriends, or really any girlfriends that care to spend hours at the mall or any store. Most of my friends are geeky guys or nerdy girls who wear mostly jeans and t-shirts or odd costume pieces. I’m the odd one out. I do have one new friend that obviously likes clothes, but we haven’t been friends long enough to go shopping together. … Must remedy this!
I loooove a meandering day at the mall or multiple stores. I am a fan of the surgical strike for grocery shopping – I make a list, go in and get what I want, and leave. For clothes, though, oh no… I want to wander around, try on all kinds of things, and make a fun day out of it. Even if my ultimate goal is only to buy a new sweater, well, what if I find an awesome scarf or the perfect pair of boots to match my new sweater?
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 2:08 pm.
I like to meander with friends, but I only like doing it alone if I’m shopping for Christmas presents. I do LOVE shopping for Christmas presents.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 3:17 pm.
Oooh, yes, shopping for Christmas presents is so fun!
… Ironically, I do most of my Christmas shopping online. My friends and family have esoteric tastes. LOL.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 4:19 pm.
Good for you, Monica. I’d be living with the jeans and t shirt crowd every day, if not for Claudia.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 3:25 pm.
I prefer a surgical strike. And if I find something I like in the stores or in a catalog I buy it in multiple colors including shoes. I know what colors look good on me — actually black looks good on me even though I’m a brunette (graying) — go figure. It’s fun shopping with girlfriends, but even I cannot overcome color prejudices. I have a BFF who I would love to dress, but she abhors reds and pinks in all shades, even though peach or sunset orange would look great on her. It’s nice that Claudia has friends who so trust her sense of style and color sense. At least I have gotten my friend to wear pin tucks on her WHITE shirts! Softens those black pants a lot.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 2:20 pm.
LOL about your friend! I do have several friends who mostly wear black. I look anemic in black. Which is a shame, because you can find it anywhere!
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 3:18 pm.
My friend Caren is the best with colors! I had never heard of being a ‘winter’ or ‘summer’ until we all started shopping together!
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 3:27 pm.
I am not a good shopper. I only go a couple of times a year and I spend too much on things I really don’t wear. Like I bought this beautiful car coat in New York for some big $$$…and there it hangs in my closet. I might use it 10 times if I am lucky this winter. But it’s really nice.
As for Black Friday, no way. I like Mondays and Tuesdays when no one is around. Ah, the perks of being a writer!
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 2:32 pm.
I have a pretty coat I bought last year that I love, but still haven’t worn. At least I didn’t pay big bucks for it!
Your problem is you live in Texas. Not many opportunities for wearing coats. *G*
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 3:20 pm.
Yes, but 10 times a year, you have the *perfect* coat!
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 3:31 pm.
My motto (and it’s gotten me into loads of trouble): I’m not buying clothes; I’m building a wardrobe.
That coat clearly belongs in your wardrobe. You’ll have it the rest of your life—said the woman who has more coats than she can count, but I am READY whenever coat wearing weather comes around. And that’s the important thing, right?
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 5:15 pm.
Welcome Deb. So good to have you on the Mount. I don’t do clothes browsing. I’m a striker when it becomes necessary to add to my wardrobe. Nope, didn’t do Black Friday and probably never will. Had to be in the mall when I worked at Waldenbooks and don’t care to repeat the experience. For any kind of shopping, and that includes the Internet, I like to go in, make my purchase, and leave. Yup, definitely a surgical striker all the way ’round.
In more prosperous times, I was fortunate to have a personal shopper. That was sheer bliss.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 3:17 pm.
Ooh, Claudia is the closest I get to a personal shopper (and she doesn’t actually BUY the clothes for me *G*). I would LOVE having a personal shopper.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 3:21 pm.
I keep telling my mom she should be a personal shopper!
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 3:30 pm.
Thank you to the generous Goddesses for my Saturday win. I am so happy to just add to this little slice of heaven and now have a book coming in the mail. Truly delighted!!
Hi Sabrina and Deb,
I go clothes shopping with my two daughters. At 21 and 25 they are ruthless in their opinions. I used to love to shop but now am less enthusiastic about it unless we a buying shoes. I can’t break my shoe addiction.
I dislike crowds and do not shop in stores after Thanksgiving unless forced. I will purchase all remaining presents online. Books are so easy to wrap!
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 4:17 pm.
Kez–and they are so much fun to receive!
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 4:54 pm.
You’re welcome, kez!
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 7:08 pm.
I went to black Friday this year not sure I ever will again. Watched a lady get beat up over a Barbie car and a knife pulled over bath towels. Im a if its on sale or I got a coupon shopper. Though I did get some great deals it was to much fighting !
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 4:39 pm.
That sounds truly frightening!
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 7:09 pm.
OMG, Karla! That’s enough to put me off of black Friday forever!
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 4:57 pm.
I say NO to Black Friday!! The doorbusters are just a ruse to get you in there. A friend’s son works at Best Buy and she told me their store only had 15 of $199.00 TV’s. (But hundreds of people were waiting in line for the store to open)> We use Thursday (Thanksgiving) being thankful for what we have and on Friday turn into barbarians trying to save a few bucks. No wonder coporate America screws us over, the see us doing it to ourselves. I prefer to do my shopping a little bit at a time.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 5:11 pm.
Really? Number Two Son went out on Black Friday and bought himself a big flat screen for $277 at Best Buy. I thought that was a bargain and worth the annoyance of hunting for a parking space.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 5:18 pm.
I’ve never gone after one of those big ticket items. It’s been so long since I’ve been out of BF at all. See, all of those folks should take a note from us, go early, with their buds and have fun!
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 5:27 pm.
Hi Deb and welcome, I have long been a fan. Shopping is a necessary evil and I am usually the one who has to do it. I always enjoy going out with my sister because it just is more fun with a fellow victim. I don’t like “window” shopping as a rule but let me near a Goodwill and get out of my way! Black Friday got 20 minutes of my time on Thursday night because I needed to replace a stolen xbox game. It was too frightening so we went home and self medicated with coffee. Friday afternoon we went out for a couple of hours and got several Christmas gifts and many ideas.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 5:17 pm.
Hi evlqn! Thank you!
Fellow victim. Hee hee. Oh, yes. I have a friend who cannot drive past the Goodwill without going in!
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 5:29 pm.
The way we know we should stop is if there is what we call augerage = parking in front, because it augers well for finding great things. We augured up a storm this weekend.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 5:48 pm.
I love Goodwill myself. You just never what you’ll find!
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 10:29 pm.
I found a new WORKING xbox for 36$ today. Happy dance FTW!!
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 11:41 pm.
I went through the Black Friday shopping with my two teenage girls. Talk about crazy! But they were afraid all the “great selections” and “best clothes” would be picked over if they didn’t go that day.
But, I must admit, the two teenager daughters are ridiculously honest. “No Mom, you cannot be seen in public in THAT outfit.” “No Mom, you can’t buy even one more pair of black pants.” Thanks to their “help,” I suppose I do dress much better than if I went shopping on my own. They are my own personal shoppers and they keep me from looking too young or too matronly.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 7:29 pm.
I do wish I had a teenage for that! Although at least I have some young friends.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 10:30 pm.
Ah, the honesty of teenagers. I have a teenage son, Looney Tune. I can’t count the number of times I’ve been called a dork! In the nicest possible way, of course!
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 8:12 pm.
Thanks for inviting me to blog, Sabrina and the all the goddesses! You guys know I love Mt Oly!
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 9:16 pm.
We love you, too, Deb!! Thanks for coming!
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 10:28 pm.
Sorry to be so late. Ladies, all I can say is that I don’t feel so alone in my aversion to shopping now. Thanks!!
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 9:47 pm.
Yes, it’s always better to spread that misery around, LOL!
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 10:29 pm.
I hate clothes shopping! I’ve done Black Friday twice in 15 years – and never again! The lines are outrageous. I prefer shopping for my clothes with my BFF or daughter who has excellent taste in clothes and will be truthful.
Posted on November 28, 2011 at 11:58 pm.
I wish I had a daughter. Then I’d always have someone to shop with!
Posted on November 29, 2011 at 7:08 pm.
Just glad she’s not like me, LisMissMolly, and missing the shopping gene! Have fun!
Posted on November 30, 2011 at 7:37 am.
I also hate to shop. I have been buyibg things on line this year. I also plan to head out with a complete shopping list of Christmas gift ideas. I want to get it all over with in 1 day!!
Posted on November 29, 2011 at 7:38 am.
You sound like me–I always want to get it over with!
Posted on November 29, 2011 at 7:09 pm.
My sister does the same thing, Laurie G. One day off and does it all at once. My mom, on the other hand, starts in July and doesn’t finish until Christmas Eve!
Posted on November 30, 2011 at 7:38 am.
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Posted on November 29, 2011 at 11:59 pm.